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Finding Joy and Happy during the Holidays

There are times when it’s a challenge to be truly living in the joy of the season or in joy at all.

Whether it’s because a family member passed and it’s hard to celebrate without them, or maybe finances make this time of year difficult, maybe you struggle with frustration, anxiety, or depression, or maybe it’s feeling like ‘I am not enough.

No matter who you are or your reason, finding joy in the holidays is possible and can renew you going into the new year.


There are so many reasons to unplug from technology during the holidays. First, remember that most people typically share the highlights of their day. When we think others “have it all,” they’re just not showing us what’s in their closed closet. Jealousy is one of the quickest joy-kills there is. So, when you have the opportunity to sit down and enjoy the holidays as a family, put the phones away.

Be present in the moment.

Furthermore, enjoy the moment. There is no need for a picture of everything. Take time to relish in the moment and create an internal memory. Those are cherished just as much, if not more, than a photograph. Think about the stories your grandparents tell and how vivid the memories were versus a still picture that has no personality. I’m not saying don’t take pictures, just try to stay more present in the moment rather than relying on a photo to capture a precious moment.

Remember that you do not have to be perfect, nor does the occasion.

The best stories are the ones where the family got food poisoning on Christmas day or where the turkey caught fire at Thanksgiving. There is truly no perfection in those moments, but the memories and the stories are what make them joyous.

There is so much anxiety in trying to make everything “just right” when it’s completely unnecessary in the long run. We all live imperfect lives, and our joy is not derived from a perfect-looking pie but that moment when the ugly pie gets the “best tasting” seal of approval.

Be Happy

My favourite tip to be happy is to surround yourself with happy people. It seems too simple. But if the people you are around are frustrating, and don’t lift you up to encourage you, then you do not have to be around them. This goes for family as well.

Remember that it’s not about them. It’s about your well-being.

The best way to find joy in the holidays or any day is to find positivity and happy people to surround yourself with and to reject any negativity that might come your way.

Lee Pryke, Intuitive Life Coach