As much as we want every day to be perfect, we are not living in a perfect world and ‘shift happens’ - sometimes in ways we least expect and it trips us up and hit the ground, get a little down, maybe even a little overwhelmed. We may feel bad because we’re not doing well with our goals for our life at home or at work.
We know we should be doing something, but we just don’t feel like doing anything. This can last for a long time if you don’t head it off as soon as possible and take some action.
First and foremost, know that every one of us has ‘off days’ and that it is part of life. But know that as the Laws of the Universe state – What goes down must come up! Whether that takes a few hours or a few days, there are things we can do to get ourselves motivated and back up walking happily on our path of success.
When I am spiralling into a full out pity party, here are some of the things that work best for me:
Make a list. When I start going over the list in my head, I can get a little crazy with all the things I want to get done and haven’t. It’s exhausting just thinking about where to start!!!! Where do I find the energy for all this “stuff” in my head! Start simply by picking up paper and pen and making a list of the most pressing things you have to do. Sometimes it’s work stuff, sometimes it’s stuff around the house that’s bothering us, sometimes it’s goal tasks, or a combination of these and more. Simply making a list can be a big relief — you’re getting things under control. You can see, right in front of you, what you need to do, and that alone can pick up your mood.
Take Action. You’ve made a list, and you still feel overwhelmed? Well, get started on the first thing you need to do. Is it a big task? Break it down and just do the smallest task, something just to get you started. Once you get started, once you get into action, you’ll feel better. Trust me. You might still feel overwhelmed, but at least you’re doing something. And once you start doing something, you’ve got momentum, and that feels much better than lying around feeling sorry for yourself.
Get Moving. I know, you might not be in the mood for exercise. But just do it! Taking a walk, going for a run, going to the gym, whatever it is you do for exercise — maybe it’s getting up from the computer and dancing around the room to some loud fun music (my favourite No 6)! You don’t need to do a real hard workout, the simple act of moving can lift your mood immediately. Just do it!
Clean Up YOU. Laying around in your jammies is not going to do you any good. Simply showering, and feeling clean, can do wonders for your mood. Brush your teeth, comb your hair, shave, do whatever it is that you need to do to feel clean and good about yourself. Instant pick me up!
Get out of the house. Sometimes, if you stay home feeling depressed, just getting out will change your mood. Staying home all the time can really get you down, and you may not realize this until you go out and do something. Preferably something on your list (see No. 1).
Play some lively music. I like Latin Dance Music but you might have your own brand of feel-good music. Whatever it is, crank it up, and let yourself move to the beat. When I am writing and feel blocked, I play my music and sway back and forth in my chair to the tunes and VOILA I get more inspired in my writing!
Can you hear it uplifting and inspiring my mood?
8.Talk a out it. Got a significant other, best friend, family member, co-worker you can talk to? Bend their ear. They are happy to listen if they are a true friend. If you don’t, there are professionals, you can talk to like myself. Getting things off your chest makes a big difference and help you work out the reasons you’re feeling down. I am a licenced Life Coach and Mentor and love the mentoring part because that can be as simple as picking up the phone and reaching out to have a chat… I am here for you.
Lee Pryke, I Am I Can Life Coaching